I was once asked by a - not very mature - German girl why it is that I've dated so many Asian girls and hardly any from my own country. She continued in this slightly disdainful voice: "Is it because they are quieter? Or because they are more obedient? Is it because men feel they can have their way with them more easily when a German (or European) girl would tell them to go to hell?" I don't remember what I answered then - and it doesn't matter since she wasn't really looking for an answer but rather an outlet for her prejudice. I also believe I noticed the looks some German girls will give me and my Chinese friend (really just that) when walking around Frankfurt. Look at him, they seem to say, someone got himself a little China doll.
Having seen what I have now on my trip to Egypt and in TV programs about holiday places like Morocco, I guess, I should have replied with another observation. Maybe it is something of the same reason that you see so many foreign girls - English or German or French or whatever - spending time getting close to young Arab men in places like Egypt. On one hand I've talked to quite a number of girls from China that said they have had or want to have a Western boyfriend from England, Germany, USA, and so on. On the other, many young Egyptian men have told me - even boasted - that they have had girlfriends or brief relationships with girls from those same countries. In both cases some of these have even led to a wedding.
The reason, or background, I believe, is essentially the same: that you look for something abroad that you feel you cannot find at home. Or you may go after a kind of exotic attraction. Whatever that may exactly mean to the individual.
What I find unfair then is those same girls getting judgmental on me for having a relationship with an Asian girl while they will go running after an Arab or Turkish guy - or Spanish or Italian - for their dark skin or temperament or colourful pick-up lines. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind it - everybody have to go after what they feel they need. I don't want this to become a nationalist or even racist argument. In fact, would it not be better to drop all these superficial cultural pre-occupations? I may not like seeing pretty German girls going to Egypt, Morocco, Spain or Italy for a little adventure. German girls may not like finding out that I seem to have had most of my relationships with girls from Asian countries. But those are no more than personal sentiments and that's the important thing to realise - and to accept. Maybe that way the sexes can achieve a truce over this.